{"id":8965,"date":"2020-03-30T08:01:08","date_gmt":"2020-03-30T13:01:08","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/matthewremski.com\/wordpress\/?p=8965"},"modified":"2020-03-30T08:01:08","modified_gmt":"2020-03-30T13:01:08","slug":"my-son-is-7-here-are-some-questions-ill-ask-him-about-the-corona-era-when-hes-20","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/matthewremski.com\/wordpress\/my-son-is-7-here-are-some-questions-ill-ask-him-about-the-corona-era-when-hes-20\/","title":{"rendered":"My Son Is 7. Here Are Some Questions I’ll Ask Him About the Corona Era When He’s 20"},"content":{"rendered":"

A starter list, mainly for me. Feel free to add your own questions in the comments<\/em><\/span>.<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

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Did I let you learn about the pandemic at your own pace?<\/h5>\n
Did I tell you enough, so that you didn’t feel I was keeping secrets?<\/h5>\n
Did I tell you too much?<\/h5>\n
Did it ever feel like I was asking you to take care of me, or to soothe my worry?<\/h5>\n
I know I was scrambling to find money during that whole time. How did it feel when I couldn’t pay you enough attention?<\/h5>\n
Did it make sense to you at the time to ask you to do that homework-type stuff? Was it weird for your dad to be a teacher too?<\/h5>\n
Do you remember doing aerobics-dance-party-wrestling with mom in the living room when it rained?<\/h5>\n
Remember when the Croatian bakery had to close and my mom gave us that bread recipe and we started baking bread?<\/h5>\n
Remember when she needed more yeast and my dad drove my mom across the city to get some from me, and we met them at the curb but you weren’t allowed to hug them?<\/h5>\n
Did it bother you that I looked at my phone while we played chess?<\/h5>\n
We had a lot of new rules during that time. Did I explain them well enough? Did they make you feel more or less secure?<\/h5>\n
I remember walking with you and your brother in the ravine, and other kids were running around less supervised, and coming too close. Were you embarrassed when I scolded them?<\/h5>\n
But do you remember when the ravine was empty, and we walked there hand in hand in the dusk?<\/h5>\n
Do you remember me losing my temper? Did I come to you to repair?<\/h5>\n
Do you remember being angry at me? Did you ever feel shy about telling me about it?<\/h5>\n
How did it feel to have to keep that distance from Nana and Papa when we met at the park?<\/h5>\n
I remember saying “No, we can’t do that,” a lot, and it made me feel awful. Do you remember me saying: “But we can do this other thing?”<\/h5>\n
What did you imagine was happening for other kids around the world? Did it make you start thinking about justice?<\/h5>\n
Did you feel like your mom and I were working happily together? Did you feel our love?<\/h5>\n
Did you see me thank her enough for all the things she does?<\/h5>\n
When you heard the news over the radio, what was most interesting to you? Frightening? Inspiring?<\/h5>\n
Did it make you want to be a doctor, a nurse?<\/h5>\n
What did you learn about being bored?<\/h5>\n
Were you worried about your little brother?<\/h5>\n
Do you remember when your mom gave him his first haircut in the kitchen \u2014 with kitchen scissors because that’s all we had \u2014 because we couldn’t take him to Denise, who came to our house for your first haircut?<\/h5>\n
What made you most scared? What helped soothe you most?<\/h5>\n
What did you learn about reassuring children, without lying to them?<\/h5>\n
Did I ever say anything that, remembering it now, you feel: “That didn’t help me prepare for this”?<\/h5>\n
Did I live or buy things or relate to our neighbours in a way that now makes you feel, “That didn’t really model the skills I need now”?<\/h5>\n
How did this influence your thinking about the climate?<\/h5>\n
Did this make you want to have your own children more, or less, or about the same?<\/h5>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

A starter list, mainly for me. Feel free to add your own questions in the comments. _____   Did I let you learn about the pandemic [\u2026]<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":8973,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"slim_seo":[],"footnotes":""},"categories":[21,65,624,684,542,689],"tags":[690,691,685,688,248],"class_list":["post-8965","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-articles","category-climate-change","category-collapse","category-covid-19","category-parenting","category-physical-distancing","tag-coronavirus","tag-covid-19","tag-lockdown","tag-pandemic","tag-parenting"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/matthewremski.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8965","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/matthewremski.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/matthewremski.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/matthewremski.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/matthewremski.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=8965"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/matthewremski.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8965\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/matthewremski.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/matthewremski.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=8965"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/matthewremski.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=8965"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/matthewremski.com\/wordpress\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=8965"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}